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And
similarly, dam-pate kalahe, I mean to say, "war between
husband and wife..." So these things are to be taken as
insignificant. So, of course, in India the quarrel between
husband and wife, nobody cares. Nobody takes very seriously.
The husband may complain, the wife may complain. Everyone
says, "Yes, yes. That's all right. It will be all right." They
never go to court for divorce. You see? But it is... There is
no seriousness. And actually it is fact. I have seen a
serious. They are divorced, but still, the husband is anxious
for the wife, and the wife is anxious for the husband. The
divorce is artificial. The husband and wife, the combination,
that cannot be cut off. So one should tolerate these things.
If there is some misunderstanding, they should not go to the
court for divorce. They should tolerate. These are some of the
rules for spiritual advancement.
[Bhagavad-gita
Lecture, 6.32-40, New York, September 14, 1966]
Prabhupada: ...quarrel, my wife
never thought of any other man; neither I thought of any other
woman.
Dr. Patel: Why? Because of the background. Prabhupada: Although we fought, but there was no such thing. (break) Fighting is natural. This is fight of love. This is not fight... Therefore Canakya Pandita has said, "Neglect this fighting. Don't take it seriously." Dam-patye kalahe bambharambhe laghu kriya (?). This should not be... Quarrel between husband and wife should not be taken seriously. Let them fight. It will stop automatically. That's all.
[S.P. Morning Walk, March 27,
1974, Bombay]
Note: So
if you find yourself poking your nose in other peoples
marriages, getting seriously involved in the quarrels of
husband and wife and then gossip about this to others,
then you can congratulate yourself on becoming a bona-fide
member of the growing
Envious Vicenava Backbiting
Cricket Community.
Envious
Vicenava Backbiting Cricket Community.
In Srimad-Bhagavatam it is said
that the Bhagavata philosophy is meant for people who are
completely free from envy (paramo nirmatsaranam). The
material world is full of envious people. Even within one's
inner circle there is much backbiting, and this is compared
to the sound vibration of a cricket in the forest. One
cannot see the cricket, but one bears its sounds and thus
becomes aggrieved. When one takes to Krsna consciousness,
one always hears unpalatable words from relatives. This is
the nature of the world; one cannot avoid mental distress
due to the backbiting of envious people.
[Srimad Bhagavatam 5.13.5]
The cricket is the harsh words
spoken by our enemy during our absence.
[Srimad Bhagavatam 5.14.46]
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